The Way of the Disciple By Parishioners Joe & Elizabeth Amsberry: Making the sacrament of marriage is something we have dreamed about our entire lives. When we were little, we would watch movies and hear stories of people getting married and living happily ever after. We would go to weddings and see happy couples as they began their lives together. We saw our parents' wedding photos and saw firsthand their happily ever afters, and wished and dreamed of that for ourselves someday. That day has finally come for us. We are joining each other in the sacrament of marriage and are therefore fulfilling one of our biggest dreams since we were children.
We will be going through a lot of changes in our lives all at one time, but we are so excited about what the future holds, and we are so excited to celebrate the beginning of our new chapter with all of our loved ones. For the first time in our lives, we will be living together. For four years of our seven-year relationship, we didn't even live in the same town. We spent weeks at a time not communicating with each other face to face. We spent some time in different countries. Not only are we going to be in the same town, but we will be sleeping in the same bed every night. That will be a big adjustment for us. Our entire relationship, one or both of us has been students. This will be the first time we have full-time employment. Through our seven years of dating and engagement, we have seen each other grow from awkward, pubescent, insecure high school underclassmen to confident, professional, mature (at least more so), experienced leaders, college graduates, and adults. We understand the beginning of marriage will take some getting used to, and we will both grow a lot as will our relationship with each other and our Lord, but we are so excited for what the future holds and we are excited to share these experiences together.
Joe & Elizabeth Amsberry
The Sacraments in Scripture… Sacrament of Marriage By Fr David Schatz: The celebration of marriage (The wedding at Cana, John 2:1-11) was the sight of the first sign performed by Jesus in his ministry and this elevated the place and importance of marriage in the life of the Church. There is a certain sense of superabundance intended in the sacrament. Jesus blessed six – twenty to thirty gallon jars of water and turned them into wine. If that was not enough, Jesus made the best wine. The blessings of marriage were expected to overflow to the good of others.
Obviously, the institution of marriage was understood long before the time of Jesus as is seen in the reflection upon marriage in the Book of Genesis (2:24). However, Jesus’ love was so profound that it ended up changing marriage into what we understand as a sacramental marriage today.
St. Paul utilizes the institution of marriage as understood in his day as an image of Christ’s bond with his Church. This is often why people are upset with the language St. Paul uses, as they should be. However, when Paul states, “Wives should be submissive to their husbands as if to the Lord because the husband is head of his wife as Christ is head of his body the church, as well as its savior” (Ephesians 5:22), he is repeating the understanding of marriage in that day. For the Roman government, marriage was not an institution of love but rather an institution of responsibility. In Roman times, everything was established to make the “head” of the household, the husband, responsible for the actions of everyone else in the household. In that way, the Roman government only had to govern the head of the household and not the whole household.
Paul recognized Jesus’ way of living, his bond of love, changed how they understood marriage. Jesus’ love for the Church changed our understanding of marriage itself. Paul goes on to say, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church. He gave himself up for her to make her holy . . .” (Ephesians 5:25 ).
Through this transformation, the Church recognized that marriage is not only a contract or a way to control people but as a way to holiness. This is a fundamental aspect of the sacrament of marriage and the Church recognizes that this vocation is a way to holiness.